Sunday, October 23, 2011

Communication Isn't Easy

I read this title and laughed out loud to myself. I have a Bachelor's of Arts in Communication--I studied the "art of communication" for four straight years. Want to know why I selected that for my major? Because it was the "easy" one. It was a business degree without having to get into the Mays Business School at Texas A&M.

But college life is far and away from real life, and in real life communication truly isn't that easy.

I am a talker. I talk ALL of the time...I talk too much! It has been a rare occasion when I have ever been the victim of an awkward silence. It has been a regular occurence that I have been the perpetrator of an awkward comment. But there is so much more to communicating than talking. Here is what I've learned about the finer aspects of communicating (I think the majority of these I learned in Aggieland, but at the Chicken and not in the classrooms!)
-Body Language/Demeanor say more than your mouth does.

We learn this from an early age. Take the lyrics of a Disney classic for example:
I'm not asking much, just a token really, a trifle!
What I want from you is - your voice.

But without my voice, how can I-

You'll have your looks, your pretty face.
And don't underestimate the importance of body language, ha!

The men up there don't like a lot of blabber
They think a girl who gossips is a bore!
Yet on land it's much prefered for ladies not to say a word
And after all dear, what is idle babble for?
Come on, they're not all that impressed with conversation
True gentlemen avoid it when they can
But they dote and swoon and fawn
On a lady who's withdrawn
It's she who holds her tongue who get's a man

(Are you singing along yet. I did!!!)

-It takes two to converse. Sometimes you need to shut up and listen.

I didn't realize I had ever talked to Toby Keith before:

"We talk about your work how your boss is a jerk
We talk about your church and your head when it hurts
We talk about the troubles you've been having with your brother
About your daddy and your mother and your crazy ex-lover
We talk about your friends and the places that you've been
We talk about your skin and the dimples on your chin
The polish on your toes and the run in your hose
And God knows we're gonna talk about your clothes
You know talking about you makes me smile
But every once in awhile

I wanna talk about me
Wanna talk about I
Wanna talk about number one
Oh my me my
What I think, what I like, what I know, what I want, what I see
I like talking about you you you you, usually, but occasionally
I wanna talk about meeeeee"
-Sometimes we say words we don't really mean.

(Courtesy of Darius Rucker)

"I left out in a cloud of taillights and dust
Swore I wasn't comin back
Said I'd had eonugh
Saw you in the rear view standin'
Fadin from my life
But I wasn't turnin' round
No not this time

But don't think I don't think about it
Don't think I don't have regrets
Don't think it don't get to me
Between the work and the hurt and the whiskey
Don't think I don't wonder bout
Could've been should've been all worked out

Yeah I know what I felt and I know what I said
But don't think I don't think about it"

-Sometimes we can't find any words at all.

I love me some Reba. I quote her music a lot, actually!:

"Seventeen years old
She was out with her friends
They started drinking at some party
Till she was three sheets to the wind
Her momma always told her she could call no matter what
She was crying on the front steps
When her mom showed up

So what do you say in a moment like this
When you can't find the words to tell it like it is
Just bite your tongue and let your heart lead the way
Let's get out of here
Oh what do you say"
-Sometimes words dig us into a hole.

Miranda Lambert--She's like Alanis Morissette for country music don't you think??

"you better be careful what you say
it never really added up any way
I got friends in this town

Hey white liar
The truth comes out a little at a time
and it spreads just like a fire
slips off of your tongue like turpentine
and I don´t know why
white liar"
-Sometimes words can lift us up.

Lonestar-Oldie but a goodie, and the video is a tear-jerker:

"He called her on the road from a lonely cold hotel room
Just to hear her say, "I love you one" more time
But when he heard the sound
Of the kids laughin' in the background
He had to wipe away a tear from his eye
A little voice came on the phone
Said, "Daddy when you comin' home?"
He said the first thing that came to his mind

I'm already there
Take a look around
I'm the sunshine in your hair
I'm the shadow on the ground
I'm the whisper in the wind
I'm your imaginary friend
And I know, I'm in your prayers
Oh I'm already there"
-Some words bring us salvation.

Romans 10:9:

"That if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."
-There is only one word to live by.

John 1:1:

"In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God."

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